Coffee, Children and Craziness

You’ve all heard how, we as the younger generation, consistently receive the age old advice to “ Enjoy it while it lasts.” and “ Don’t blink, they will be grown before you know it.” and “ Trust me, you’ll miss these days.”

All of these phrases are said with the best intentions and in the most loving way possible. And they are good reminders to us moms to slow down and embrace the season of life we are in. I have no doubts whatsoever that yes, I will indeed miss these chaotic days when they are gone. My kids are growing up fast and I do sometimes long for the days when they were tiny and I could just sit and snuggle with them. However, those well meant pieces of advice often don’t do us moms any favors. Never in the history of mankind has the need to “do it all” been more loudly preached and the mom guilt we feel on a daily basis is unreal. We know our babies are growing up too fast. We know these tough days won’t last forever. We do our best to enjoy the little moments. But that doesn’t take away from the fact that it’s HARD! These long days with the kiddos are HARD. Being everything for everyone at all times is HARD. Getting it all done is HARD. Whether we work a 9-5 job or work at home, it’s ALL HARD. The last thing us moms need is a reminder to “Enjoy every single moment”.

Yes, we will miss these days. We know that. But we will not miss them TODAY. Today is hard. Today we want them to be older and for these tough times to be gone. Today we aren’t sure we will make it. Not today.

My suggestion to people is to stop and think about giving some advice that does not make moms feel ten times worse about themselves. Such as, “ I know these days are hard. I remember when my kids were that age. I didn’t think I’d make it. But I promise, it gets better. The phases are rough but they go through them so quickly. You are doing an amazing job. Give yourself grace and try to enjoy your time with them while you can. “ These words, along with a pat on the shoulder, a smile, or even a hug, can make a world of difference to a mom who is having a rough day. And trust me, the words you say, whether helpful or guilt tripping, she will remember the rest of her life. ❤️❤️